10 more songs to listen to when you’re sad

I found several more happy songs that I want to share in a new post. My last one was written a long time ago (I forgot to publish it) and several of my favorite songs didn’t make it because they hadn’t come out yet.

Song #1: ‘Uptown Funk’ by Mark Ronson featuring Bruno Mars

This is a very upbeat, happy song. I’m really into it. I think just about everyone is. I just wish it didn’t have any bad language though.

Song #2: ‘Shut Up and Dance’ by Walk the Moon

I can’t help but get excited whenever I hear this song. It makes me grin and want to dance.

Song #3: ‘Ain’t No Mountain High Enough’ by Marvin Gaye

This one is pretty peppy. It was suggested to me by someone. I don’t listen to it much, but it’s good.

Song #4: ‘When Can I See You Again’ by Owl City

This song is such a fun, catchy tune. I love it so much.

Song #5: ‘Happy’ by Pharrell Williams

Don’t pretend you didn’t see this one coming.

Song #6: ‘Twist and Shout’ by The Beatles

Suggested to me by a friend, it really is pretty peppy.

Song #7: ‘Don’t Stop Believin’ by Journey

It starts off slow, but ends up being amazingly catchy and upbeat by the end.

Song #8: ‘Roar’ by Katy Perry

You can’t deny how peppy it is. It’s got a pretty good beat too.

Song #9: ‘Mean’ by Taylor Swift

Not the peppiest song on the list, but it’s a good message to remember if bullies have you down.

Song #10: ‘Better Things’ by The Kinks

Recommended by a friend, it really is pretty upbeat. Inspirational too.

You can find part 1 here.

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10 songs to listen to when you’re sad

These aren’t all necessarily uplifting in their message, but they’re bouncy, fun, catchy songs that I just can’t help but feel happy during, and maybe it’ll be the same for someone else.

SONG #1: ‘Good to be Alive’ by Skillet

This is a song I can’t help but like. It never fails to cheer me up–even when I’m already in high spirits. It’s a fun song to bob your head to.

SONG #2: ‘Zip-a-Dee-do-Dah’ from Disney’s ‘Song of the South’

This is just a cute song all around. I’ve included two versions, one with the original, one with a more modern, peppy feel to it.

SONG #3: ‘Me Without You’ by tobyMac

I love this song. It’s so upbeat and makes you want to bob your head.

SONG #4: ‘Istanbul (Not Constantinople)’

I’m not sure on who sang the original, but I like the version I included (by Jimmy Kennedy and Nat Simon), mostly because the video lines up with it, even though they’re completely unrelated (and the video is actually in German!).

SONG #5: ‘Everybody Talks’ by Neon Trees

This is a song I just want to dance to whenever I hear it. It’s so darn catchy.

SONG #6: ‘Sweeter than Fiction’ by Taylor Swift

This is such a sweet song. I’ll let you look up the backstory for yourself, but it’s a good one.

SONG #7: ‘Dance Forever’ by Allstar Weekend

This is just a song it’s way too tempting to bob my head to–and that’s when I’m around people. Not even including what I’d do if I was alone.

SONG #8: ‘The Safety Dance’ by Men Without Hats

It’s just one of those songs that’s got a peppy beat and you want to dance around a little.

SONG #9: ‘I Ran Over the Taco Bell Dog’ by Weird Al

It’s short but hilarious.

SONG #10: ‘Walking on Sunshine’ by Katrina & the Waves

I’ve never known anyone who can stay sad during this song. Ever. I dare you to prove me wrong.

10 Things You Don’t Say to a Suicidal Person (and what to say instead)

As someone who used to want to commit suicide on pretty much a daily basis, I’ve been told lots of things to try to talk me out of it. Most of them just annoy me and I’m here to tell you why I feel these shouldn’t be used to talk anyone out of it, and what can maybe actually work. Without further ado, I present…

10 THINGS YOU NEVER SAY TO A SUICIDAL PERSON
  1. “It’ll get better.” Maybe not. I’m never going to not have BPD. I will always have this. I will always be on edge because I’m afraid of getting emotional at a bad time. It may get better, but then it’ll get worse again. I’m not suicidal, but you (hopefully) get my point.
  2. “Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.” See above.
  3. “Suicide is the coward’s way out.” Do you have any idea how brave you have to be to follow through on it? It’s very, VERY hard to kill yourself because of your survival instinct. I don’t think it’s cowardly.
  4. “You’re going to go to hell.” Yea, well, if someone is that sick of life, they probably think that they’re already in hell. You don’t need to guilt trip them. It makes it worse.
  5. “What will your family or friends do without you?” They’ll move on. If I’m dead, what’s it matter to me? Seriously, you’re guilt-tripping again.
  6. “Get over it. You’ll be fine.” See, if someone tells me to ‘get over it’, and I’m truly suicidal, I’m going to say ‘screw you’ and do it anyway.
  7. “You don’t have the nerve.” Don’t count on it.
  8. “You just want attention.” Anyone who does that just for ‘attention’ has bigger problems than wanting to kill themselves.
  9. “Why would you want to do it? You’re so good-looking/well-off/rich/famous!” Seriously? You think that being successful automatically means someone couldn’t possibly have mental issues?
  10. “I’m going to send you to the hospital.” This makes one feel even more unwanted than they already did.
WHAT TO SAY INSTEAD
  1. “I love you.” You should say this as much as you can anyway, but especially when someone is ready to take their own life, because odds are they probably don’t know or they would reconsider.
  2. “Would you like to talk about it?” Sometimes all one needs is someone to listen to them.
  3. “I’m always here if you need to talk.” Counseling does wonders, but when you can’t afford it, it’s nice to have someone to talk to, whether they can give good advice or not.
  4. Smile warmly. It may make them feel a little better.
  5. Just give them a hug! Hugs are nice and always cheer me up at least a little.

Overall, it’s pretty straightforward. Don’t accuse them of anything, don’t guilt-trip, and less is better. A simple ‘I love you’ will go a lot further than saying ‘suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem’. I’m sure there are people who will disagree with me on this, but I’m not backing down without solid proof that I’m wrong. Anyway, I hope that this helped someone and that maybe it changed someone’s perspective.